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Why growing up feels more complex for neurodivergent kids

Neurodivergent children often experience asynchronous development, where their intellectual, emotional, and social maturation occurs at different rates. This creates internal conflicts between their desire for independence and their need for structure and support. The physical and emotional changes of development can be particularly overwhelming for children with sensory sensitivities or autism, who may struggle to understand and adapt to changes in their own bodies and social expectations.

Why early growing up support matters

Without explicit instruction about developmental changes, neurodivergent children may experience unnecessary anxiety about normal growth processes. Their concrete thinking patterns mean they benefit from clear, factual information about what to expect as they mature. Research shows that structured education about development increases self-advocacy skills and reduces anxiety about change. Early support helps children develop a positive identity that incorporates both their neurodivergent traits and their evolving capabilities.

Tips for helping kids with growing up

  • Provide concrete information: Use clear, factual language to explain physical and emotional changes without overwhelming details
  • Create development timelines: Use visual supports to show how growth happens gradually over time
  • Celebrate neurodivergent strengths: Help children understand how their unique traits contribute to their growing identity
  • Address changing expectations: Explicitly discuss how responsibilities and freedoms change as children mature

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